All of the foregoing couples worked at their relationships, keeping them in alignment. Their harmony involved day-by-day dedication, commitment, and perseverance. They accepted the total reality of each other as well as of themselves, and did not let their defensive postures run their lives or sabotage their relationships. They remained open and devoted to making [...]

While the preceding chapters might be called the bread and butter of this book, this chapter might be considered the dessert. Until now, the games have been designed to get couples in touch with the defensive postures and underlying blocked feelings inside them. This constitutes the main work of overcoming blocks to effective relating. Once [...]

Players: Husband and wife. Activist/s: Wife or both. Setting: Home or hotel. Aim: Force husband to confront underlying fears by engaging in a sexual experience that exaggerates moral correctness. Game Plan: This game is a variation on the previous one, but the goal is the same. The wife can pull this game on her morally [...]

“What do you want with me?” the Beauty asks. “I told you. To be my wife.” “That’s impossible.” “Why?” “Because you disgust me.” “So?” “You’re a creep.” “So?” “You’re a pig.” “So?” “You’re a beast.” “So?” “I couldn’t stand for you to touch me.” “You’ll love me someday.” “Never!” This conversation (or a variation on [...]

Games for perverse couples abound both in life and in literature. In days of yore, such games were played secretly in bedrooms, back alleys, and basements. Today, one encounters more and more couples engaging openly in perverse games, such as those advertised in the “adult classified” pages of newspapers. They are referred to as (S&M), [...]

Cow’s milk is probably the most common item in the UK diet. It’s no wonder that allergists tell us that milk is also the number one cause of food allergy, especially for children. Common milk reactions include wheezing, runny nose and congestion, ear infection, rashes, vomiting and bloody diarrhoea. Those symptoms don’t show up immediately, [...]

A record of what you eat, how much you eat and how you feel afterwards can signal what you’re allergic to – especially if your symptoms come and go unpredictably (as symptoms are wont to do). The accompanying sample diary shows you how to correctly record entries. Your diary will be most helpful if you [...]

Eating is one of life’s greatest pleasures, no doubt about it. Yet 60 per cent of the population may be allergic to one or more foods. That wouldn’t be a problem if those allergies were limited to foods such as prawns, chocolate or peanuts – foods we could probably give up without cramping our lifestyles [...]

Is it something in your diet. . . The two symptoms Dr Saifer was talking about are found mainly in people who have a food allergy. But they aren’t the only two signs of food allergy. If you answer yes to any of the following questions, your problems may be food related: Did you have [...]

By now you may suspect that you have allergies you never considered. What’s your next move? The first thing that a person can do,’ Dr Tichenor told us, ‘is pay very close attention to his or her body for a period of time – a week or a month or whatever. Try to see if [...]