GAMES TO RESTORE TENDERNESS – INTRODUCTION
While the preceding chapters might be called the bread and butter of this book, this chapter might be considered the dessert. Until now, the games have been designed to get couples in touch with the defensive postures and underlying blocked feelings inside them. This constitutes the main work of overcoming blocks to effective relating. Once aspiring lovers have done that, it is relatively easy to restore tenderness. They may not even need to play any of the games in this chapter to do so. However, I include them so as to point out one of the many paths.
Basically, these games are concerned with the expression of feelings connected with tenderness: need, fear, gratitude, respect, trust, love. Of course, these are not the only tender feelings, and there are as many ways to express these as there are couples. This is merely an outline that may or may not apply to each couple. Each will modify the games for their own purposes.
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