All of the foregoing couples worked at their relationships, keeping them in alignment. Their harmony involved day-by-day dedication, commitment, and perseverance. They accepted the total reality of each other as well as of themselves, and did not let their defensive postures run their lives or sabotage their relationships. They remained open and devoted to making [...]

While the preceding chapters might be called the bread and butter of this book, this chapter might be considered the dessert. Until now, the games have been designed to get couples in touch with the defensive postures and underlying blocked feelings inside them. This constitutes the main work of overcoming blocks to effective relating. Once [...]

Players: Husband and wife. Activist/s: Wife or both. Setting: Home or hotel. Aim: Force husband to confront underlying fears by engaging in a sexual experience that exaggerates moral correctness. Game Plan: This game is a variation on the previous one, but the goal is the same. The wife can pull this game on her morally [...]

“What do you want with me?” the Beauty asks. “I told you. To be my wife.” “That’s impossible.” “Why?” “Because you disgust me.” “So?” “You’re a creep.” “So?” “You’re a pig.” “So?” “You’re a beast.” “So?” “I couldn’t stand for you to touch me.” “You’ll love me someday.” “Never!” This conversation (or a variation on [...]

Games for perverse couples abound both in life and in literature. In days of yore, such games were played secretly in bedrooms, back alleys, and basements. Today, one encounters more and more couples engaging openly in perverse games, such as those advertised in the “adult classified” pages of newspapers. They are referred to as (S&M), [...]